The idea of marrying and spending a lifetime with the person you love the most is so pure and welcome. You’ll have a stable source of energy whenever you feel exhausted; he’ll stay beside you even if you hit rock bottom, and vice versa. Despite that, it won’t be wise to say ‘I do’ immediately based on that. Ask yourself these questions before getting married.
Am I ready to settle down?
That’s the billion-dollar question, isn’t it? A lot of women think twice about accepting a marriage offer from the beloved boyfriend because they either want to hold on to their independence a bit longer or assume they’re still too young.
If it helps, though, according to a sociologist from the University of Utah, the perfect age to marry is around 28 to 32 years old. You would’ve accomplished many things by then, so that won’t preferably be a problem.
In case there are other matters at play, take them into account as well.
Do we share similar interests?
The simplest way to put it is, “Out of the 10 activities that you like, how many of those does he like too?”
It’s clear that any number below 4 isn’t good since it entails that you have fewer commonalities. It may translate to plenty of misunderstandings in the future, and you know where that will end once left unresolved: divorce.
Personally speaking, the ideal score is close to 7, because then you still have room to kiss and makeup. Getting 10 out of 10 strips you of that experience as it means you agree on everything (read: dull).
Do I know him enough?
You and your man lived separate lives before you met; that’s why it’s highly possible that he has beliefs and preferences that are diverse from yours. For instance, he may be religious; you’re not. He may want five kids; you prefer 2. While there are other angles you should look at; your primary goal is to find out if you can still accept each other regardless of the differences.
Can we handle conflicts like adults?
Disagreements happen in any relationship, so expect it to occur even when you’re married. What’s important is how you two deal with it. Just a heads’ up, it’s never OK to bottle up your sentiments rather than talking it out right there. In case you do the opposite of that, then you’re in the right place.
Do I see a future with him?
This final question matters as well because you need to assess your feelings for him at the end of the day. You already know how he is as an individual at this point, so you should have enough basis to tell if he’s the one or not.
If you answered ‘yes’ to all the questions above, then yes, you can get married to your partner ASAP. In case there’s a ‘no’; however, even just one, reconsider your choices. Until then, focus on knowing and loving each other. Good luck!