There is a cycle of violence in domestic abuse situations:
Cycle Of Violence
Abuse – Your partner will hurt you with every little action that you make to dominate you.
Guilt – The abusive partner will feel guilty not with what they’ve done but at the thought of facing the consequences of his actions.
Excuses – He (or even she) will try to excuse what he (or she) did to avoid responsibility.
“Normal” Behavior – The person, will try to act normal or sweet again to prevent you from leaving with the hope of change.
Fantasy and Planning – The abusive partner will think of how to hurt you again by manipulating you and going back to what you supposedly did wrong.
Set-up – Your partner will set you up so that he can justify the abuse.
Abusers will spout excuses and sweet words in between this to make you stay and believe that they still love you. Do not be fooled by this. These type of people are self-centered and controlling. They only serve themselves and will reel you in as much as they can because they want to damage you for their pleasure. Resist the belief that they love you because THEY DON’T.